THE ART OF MAKING LOVE
85Love making is an art... It is the art of body expressions of two persons with mutual feelings and desire to achieve the highest point of sexual glory. The union or intertwining of two bodies that eventually results to formation of a new life is somewhat an amazing fact of life and though we are scientifically aware of the process of reproduction from fertilization, conception, all stages of foetal developments until giving birth, it is still amazing why in the creation of a new life there is involved an instinct desire and strong urge or energy that manifests itself in the process.
Sad to say, some people, restricted by their cultures, strict family orientation and personal beliefs, are still not open to the idea of having open discussions about sex. And it is this too much conformity to restricted society that controls the true feelings of a person and sometimes leads to the tension and disturbance in the individual.
But too much ego defenses can lead to mental or psychological disturbance since the inner wants lying in the unconscious state are not met.
Carl Gustav Jung, a Swiss scientist defined libido as psychic energy. Libido or the sexual urge is contained in the large unconscious structure of the psyche, the id. . Well, according to scientists, it is our ego defenses that transforms and dissipates the psychic energy into other forms, thus suppressing our unconscious wants and desires. But too much ego defenses can lead to mental or psychological disturbance since the inner wants lying in the unconscious state are not met.
Huh! I don't want to dwell more on scientific definitions of these energies. I just want to say however, that since these are natural things, people should not be too much restricted in sexual discussions, as long as it is not obscene, and it conforms to what is acceptable within moral standards.
Libido is important, it is a hidden energy that keeps someone going, and it is this hidden energy that urges a woman to make herself beautiful..
Libido is important, it is a hidden energy that keeps someone going, and I believe it is this hidden energy that keeps a woman beautiful and urges her to feel that she would like to be beautiful. Women with higher libido level, no matter what their body contours are, appear to be sexier and more attractive, because the aura enhances, thus reflecting an inner glow. .. and there is somewhat a kind of energy that manifests in how she acts or behaves, thus making her sexier before the eyes of the partner. And if the partner could not notice this inner glow and no mutual response is generated, oh my gosh, the man has destrudo...
Well, frankly speaking, love making, making love, or sex per se are important topics that catch the attention of any mature individual who has the capacity to do it no matter what his beliefs, culture and family upbringings are, hypocrisy aside. Well, it is a natural instinct, and an inner want associated with wonderful feeling that emerges from the innermost part of a person's self.
A person is damned hypocrite when he or she will say making love is a bad topic to discuss... and to talk about the positions of making love is silly, annoying and shameful ... My gosh... if you are mature enough and you do it, you should be responsible also in understanding it and how well you should do it!!
And I find it ironic, well forgive me for saying this, that in many restricted cultures where society talks about strict laws and moral values, ( well not even the eyes of the woman is seen because of the draperies covering the whole body which is I think is impractical and unreasonable), there are many unrevealed cases of sexual abuse done by men, and also by women.
Well, my dear grandmommy, I hope you won't be angry with me, as I publish this... usually, senior generations are very conservative... .but believe me, if you and grandpa will read this together, you will feel refreshed and grandpa will find you superb as ever... LOL!
Anyway, I hope most of the men who are pretty caring about their mates already know these basic things....Maybe you would love to add up on these...
Well, just consider this as reminders on what you should do and what you should not do, this is basically what we want and what we dont want... Well couples, I hope you'll find this useful... and if you have more suggestions.. well, I am much willing to learn more from you...
DO....
THE BASICS.
Basic hygiene is what I mean here. Ensure that all your body parts are clean. Brush, brush, brush and floss. Scrub your underarms and make sure that your partner will not jump from bed and run out of the room the moment you pull her to your chest or kiss you on the neck. If your partner is pretty damn crazy over you , and you are pretty sure you are clean all over from up to down down there, then there will be no awkward feelings if ever she's in the mood and crazy enough to suck your toes.
CREATE A DIFFERENCE EVERYTIME YOU DO IT.
Light scented candles create romantic atmosphere. But I suggest you have it while you are in the bathroom since the aroma of the candle blends well with the scent of floral body wash or oil essences.
If you are always doing it on your bed and you feel the monotony, why not try having it on the sofa, on the couch, on the floor, just behind the door or on the table? Well, there is no such awkward place or small piece of furniture if you both feel you want to do it over there. But make sure that the furniture is strong enough to carry both of you! Otherwise you will both end up with sprain or bone fracture!
BE CAREFUL IN HER BELIEF ABOUT PRIVACY
.Yes! You can do everything which both of you agree to do within the confines of what you believe about sex, or that would satisfy and give you pleasure to the nth level.
Provided, that you have your privacy and you are in a place where only the two of you can see your naked bodies. If she wants total privacy... but...
you may not know unless you ask her, to certain women, having sex in an unusual place is one of the most common naughty fantasies: maybe it may sound a bit of exhibitionism, but the risk/danger factor or just the excitement of taking sex out of its usual context and doing it in a different place may arouse a woman and take her to the maximum pleasure
To some, it may be sexy or quite arousing that somebody else in that place may know what you are doing, but let them die of hardened arteries as they imagine in their dirty minds who is on top of who. They may suspect, but don't let them see, so that you may be given the benefit of the doubt...lol!
TEASE AND MAKE HER HEAD OVER HEELS.
Never, never rush. Believe it or not women like to be teased. We don't care whether it is the 99th or 1002nd times, but we want to feel always like the first time. Doing it little by little adds up excitement.
Don't act like a hungry lion , otherwise she will say you don't have to eat her because she is a vegetarian.. lol!
You can start by kissing her forehead down the cheek, nose, upper lip, then lower lip, gently and slowly. You can give her a light bite if she's cool in biting. Then tease her with your tongue and give her a little French kiss. Your hands should do their jobs also. You can trace her body line with your forefinger, from the nape down to her back and you can give a soft squeeze when you reach her bum. Dont forget to touch her hair, and if it is long, it would be sexy if you touch it downward up to its full length, passing by or ending up on her humps. Uhmn, you know what I mean.
You should know her erogenous zones. According to Oxford dictionary, erogenous zones are parts of the body which are sensitive to sexual stimulation.
When you know she's already switched on, you can now increase your speed and show a full display of your talents in kissing and touching.
DON'T go direct to the point.
It is not good to be straight forward at all times, especially when making love.
You know what I mean guys! Don't ever try to aim and hit your target without turning the switch on. Sometimes men just want to finish and shorten the glory by jumping over the bull, hitting the bull's eye directly and then go down and snore like a pig. This is what all women hate.
DON'T put on too much lights.
Darkness adds intensity and heightens libido. When you are just ‘tuning up' don't start with bright lights on.
There is much excitement if you trace her body line while the lights are off. When her body heat is switched on or when you were able to reach her kindling temperature, ( literally, kindling temperature means the degree in which a material begins to burn), you can increase brightness of the room by turning on lamp shades or dim lights.
If seeing your naked bodies shaking and waving under bright lights would both turn you on, then you can wrestle over the bed with lights on. I wish lights on your room have remote control so you won't have to distract the momentum by turning the lights on and off.
DON'T be traditional.
Don't be the missionary who always do everything in accordance with the tradition. I mean, sometimes you have to experiment what will please both of you.
Experimenting on different positions is not bad depending on what both of you believe. Love making as we call it, can be pleasurable as ever if the two persons doing it are deeply and passionately giving in to one another.
Do not forget that by doing so, you become an artistic and passionate lover.
NO INHIBITIONS.
DON'T forget her erogenous zones.
As I mentioned, erogenous zones are parts of the body that has sensitivity to touch and arouses sexual stimulation. There are different types of erogenous zones, which I will discuss in my future hubs. One basic thing is that you should know how to touch her in fashion that will create sensation to her whole body.
Remember, touching the woman in her erogenous zones boosts up her confidence and gives a feeling that she is desirable. According to study, when aroused, a woman's brain produces oxytocins. These are hormones that fight anxiety, lack of self-confidence and stress.
You can justify it by seeing her good mood and happiness the next morning.
So, don't neglect her erogenous zones!
DON'T forget that you should enjoy also.
Above all of these, bear in mind that you guys have to enjoy the pleasure also.
You don't have to overdo everything and neglect your own pleasure...who's the man who neglects his own by the way...?
In aiming to make her happy don't have it overly done. Remember, you are not her best friend or therapist, more so, you are not his dad who always give his little girl reassurance about herself. You are there to share your bodies. And you are there to ENJOY sex with each other!
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Have you read Kama Sutra?
I was already 90% done with this hub when I happened to pass by a site telling about KAMASUTRA, the oldest book of erotic love. In ancient India, the Sixty Four Arts of Kama Sutra implies the intimacy and the bond in love making. It aims to make wife skillful, refined, sexually beautiful and intelligent. While, to the husband, it expresses his understanding of female nature and the importance of cultivating sensual moods and intimacy. The ancient Indians show great attention to detail of smell, light, music, food, drink and touch before intercourse can begin.
For those who have not read articles about this, I suggest you find some time to read this. It is about art, life, relationships, powerful married life, adultery, etc. It also tells about different positions in making love. I was amazed also to see the different positions!
Must be enjoyable and fantastic if you do it right!!!
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hope you can publish more articles about how to improve relationship between husband and wife, and reasons why married people tend to have extramarital relationships
This could be one of the best guides for couples who wants to lengthen their relationship, not just for years but forever...Great hub!
nice hub
Interesting article. This pleasurable feeling will surely keep and help a relationship to last. Great hub! :)
Interesting article. This pleasurable feeling will surely keep and help a relationship to last. Great hub! :)
nice hub..carry on..good..
Dear Vilmadoesnt, it is great hub:open, interesting, full of usefull advices for men. I really enjoyed reading every part of it. Lovemaking is art, not the quick exercise. Thank you so much for writing that article.
Wow, well done! Good information!
Great HUB...continue the good work
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Nice hub!
Sometimes I forget the basics :( Thanks for reminding me!
Hublove to u!
I have to thank you for this article, being a virgin waiting until marriage (so that me and my future spouse will share something truly special that I will have never shared with anyone else), my knowledge of making love has to come from studying information like this so thank you very much. I see you are from the United Arab Emirates, it's cool meeting people from different countries, in fact my long distance girlfriend is in the Philippines (relationship carried primarily over the phone, sometimes email).
nice hub..I hope these could help especially to those who are closing their minds for the so called "REALITY".
great hub, thanks for the info. :D
Good information! Don't forget lovers, it is important to communicate your desires, and your fantasies without fear. Open and honest communication is sexy and besides, us guys don't like to have figure things out!
this is great hub! i will print it and paste on the wall in my room :D
It's an art which once mastered, can achieve wonderful things.
Great Hub. TM
u r right poppa blues....women are usually shy of letting even their husbands know what really pleases them sexually...and what more, us guyz don't like to figure things out. i am going to have open talk with my wife tonight...thanks to Vilmadoesnt. you're the best, vilmadoesnt.
Great hub! ur hub is number2 and karmasutra is no1
i came back to your page to refresh what i read before!!! really its nice reading your hubs!! you're great VILMADOESNT!
and dont forget it's all mind game!
IF ONLY YOU WOULD...
Great hub! It is so important to talk openly about sex and love. Gone are the days when everyone had to tip toe around the subject. The key to a lasting relationship, in and out of the bedroom, is equal fulfillment for everyone involved! If my husband were not an open and responsive lover we would never have had a future.
i love having sex with my boyfriend matt farnell, oomff give to me baby !!!
Wonderful info I havent made love in years to a woman and now Im Im in love with this awesome lady and Im waiting till we get married thanks for all the wonderful info keep up the great work it help me with my new life !!! look foward to more of your great work!! please keep the topic on relationships God Bless you!!
Realy good artice . good advice. should help many slam bam thank you madam relationships.
this is presented as a 'how to'?
Didn't realize sex was so "official".
The sad fact is that BOTH have to be 'game' fo rnot being 'traditional' or else nothing else matters and ultimately its all just the same old thing... you seem to imply that the whole world is receptive to an 'open boarders' approach to sex, when in actuality people figure out what their comfort zones are and then consciously live only within them AFTER they have snarled the person they end up with. Yeah, you read that right.... The sad fact I have discovered after 2 mqrriages and over 70 lovers in my life is that in dating, or in courting, sex in the beginning is all about "hey, I'm gonna blow (the other person's) mind and be 'ALL THAT'..." But after we 'get' the object of our affection, we revert to some safe 'comfort zone' known only to us. It's sad but true. True love is a metaphore for our 'hope' that ultimately the person we are with will not discover just how full of bullshit we really are and then split.
True love is really just the 'act' we put on either to (1) get someone into bed in the first place or (2) to impress them once we have them in bed for 4 or 5 times in the very beginning stages.
The rest is just maintenance.
TheArt of Making Love?
Oh PLEASE.
Your hub makes me......uuuhhhmmmmm want to discover more!
That was good!
That is an art! A sacred art.
Good hub...it always puzzles me why people are so uptight about sex as well...
Another Tip: Don't forget to add some scented candles and romantic music to the scene for a really romantic night.
LOVE IS SORCE OF MONEY BECAUSE E
Thanks for the kind words.
R. Martin Basso - Life is all about pushing that comfort zone over and over again. If you're not prepared to do it then I feel sorry for you. Good luck "maintaining" your life... the rest of us are trying to live ours.
JustTyler - Is that what life is about? "pushing that comfort zone over and over again". Okay, now I know why so many people are starving, and why addiction is so prevalent, and why society is so immersed in competitiveness, and why the media controls us, and why people get murdered, and why all the enchantment has left us, and why my daughter will be paying rent to an already wealthy landlord for the rest of her life!!! Gee, thanks JT; I'm glad you cleared that up for me.
wildlife
Its too good hub for life
Bravo. Thanks.
Interesting Hub, sometimes we don´t look at tthings the way we should, well done...
nice hubs 2 be applied
thats really good & very important for a men to know
VILMA,
This is a great hub for couples to explore and understand their sexual demands,even God demands the satisfaction of each other in marriage to prevent the temptation of unfaithfulness.
It helps to keep the married together- soul and spirit.
Good work.
Great Thnk you
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Greetings fellow thespians,
As a mere male,its been my observations that mere male often times confuses sex with making love.It appears that far too many men regard God's finest creation as a kind of receptical for his stuff and his main objective seems to be too let it all go as soon as possible;if not sooner?
Cos if he values his partners need for a 'moment of wonder and intence pleasure' he will focus all his attention on ensuring she has an explosive 'orgasm'........cos IF he can create such a moment he will find she will adore him with an intensity of feeling wonderous to behold............believe it or not
May God's magical healing force be with you always
Laurence
Oh if only everyone could see that this is the best way. I know that usually what's good for one person is not always good for another, but I believe that practicing this method (Kama Sutra included) would make for a lot more happy people and a happier world.
Great hub!!! Good Stuff!!
When I read your articles I remembered my past years. That's really romantic.
Feelings are high
great article! should be applied...
Excellent post. Keep it up..........Thanks for sharing.
Good points - your lover will learn a lot about how you perosnally like it by reading this - however there those you simple differ on some points you mention.
1- as long as it is not obscene, and it conforms to what is acceptable within moral standards. You need to qualify that statement becasue everyone has different moral standards and beliefs. Although it is rare and may seem impossible to you (me as well) but there are those who are very liberal and swinging and swaping are NOT taboo.
2- Light scented candles create romantic atmosphere. -- there are both men and women who prefer the animal aspect of a good romp in the sack. Romance to those types of people may follow a completely different apporach - such as role playing...... that wont be rompantic to you (or me for that matter) but there are those that any act that creates a build up of desire "IS THERE ROMANCE". They wont understand you - nor will you understand them.
3- Never, never rush. Believe it or not women like to be teased. That's true, but some women respond more willingtly, excitedly an easily to little more aggresion. They seem to need to know they are so desiredable they bring out the animal in their mate. (personally I prefer the tease and long pampering secessions - but I have lost good women to my nice behavior that they interpreted as marshmellow and did not show them that I desired them as much as I did)
4 - DON'T put on too much lights. --- that is totally a personal preferrence - some peopel prefer to be able to watch everything nd look at their lover in the spot light of the moment.
5 - Bath shower or what ever to be extra clean --- again - some people of both sexes are turned on by sweaty bodies right after a work out in the gym. (personally I like both)
All in all - good article on how you like it. My question is "what are you doing tonight?"
Love - Light - Laughter
I'm agree that sex without love is not entitle to call make love. Shows cares,understanding to your partner and lots more of elements add together brings love. Remember that having sex with love,we call make love.
This is really a great work hub. I must say that I am totally informed and educated right now that I wish I were married. I came across your page accidentally(well if that's how I should best describe it) and the information I got from this page I think is going to lead me through even when I finally settle down. I know that this page isn't ultimately meant for young people like myself, I just couldn't help but read it through, so for that, I crave your indulgence. Hub I believe that you mission is not only to show people the right path towards a better life, but to also guide them through it. I don't know if it sounds odd to you hub but if it will be possible, I wish that you contact me in private cos there's really a serious issue bothering me which I don't feel comfortable with discussing in a public blog page. I really would appreciate it if you can honor this wish. Once again great job hub and keep it up.
Bright(naturekute)
This is really a great work hub. I must say that I am totally informed and educated right now that I wish I were married. I came across your page accidentally(well if that's how I should best describe it) and the information I got from this page I think is going to lead me through even when I finally settle down. I know that this page isn't ultimately meant for young people like myself, I just couldn't help but read it through, so for that, I crave your indulgence. Hub I believe that you mission is not only to show people the right path towards a better life, but to also guide them through it. I don't know if it sounds odd to you hub but if it will be possible, I wish that you contact me in private cos there's really a serious issue bothering me which I don't feel comfortable with discussing in a public blog page. I really would appreciate it if you can honor this wish. Once again great job hub and keep it up.
Bright(naturekute)
This is really a great work hub. I must say that I am totally informed and educated right now that I wish I were married. I came across your page accidentally(well if that's how I should best describe it) and the information I got from this page I think is going to lead me through even when I finally settle down. I know that this page isn't ultimately meant for young people like myself, I just couldn't help but read it through, so for that, I crave your indulgence. Hub I believe that you mission is not only to show people the right path towards a better life, but to also guide them through it. I don't know if it sounds odd to you hub but if it will be possible, I wish that you contact me in private cos there's really a serious issue bothering me which I don't feel comfortable with discussing in a public blog page. I really would appreciate it if you can honor this wish. Once again great job hub and keep it up.
Bright(naturekute)
great hub
wow...that's what all men need to read out..!
itsss favourable
great sexy article, I loved all of the advice and it is true women love to be teased and they also like to be mentaly stimulated as well!
Very good hub, nowadays women are so open about what they want and what they need. Warm applause for you.
This hub realy rocks. It also gave me great advice and encouragement. Infact i like this hub at all.i'd like you guys to keep on telling us your views. That powerful at all. Hub..... Hub...... Lol....;-D it really rocks.
This hub realy rocks. It also gave me great advice and encouragement. Infact i like this hub at all.i'd like you guys to keep on telling us your views. That powerful at all. Hub..... Hub...... Lol....;-D it really rocks.
take a look you may be fore you!
Very refreshing to read on LOVE MAKING. Surely, adding to understanding of KAAMSUTRA. Surely, too, LOVE IS NOT LUST, LOVE IS SACRED, LOVE IS POWER. Lots of thanks, for such a wonderful hub.
This is a very goood article- I think if you actualy wroteA book you would be very succesfull no doubt
Great article you actually shared in here which made a lot of meaning.
That's great ideas for lovers or couples.Thanks for sharing.
It seems to me that some men, possibly the poster who talked about maintenance, may be reverting back to the antique ideas of sex being only a release for them or an ego boost related to their prowess or the ability to obtain a beautiful woman and thereby increase their own ego. It reminds one of the olden ideas when sexuality of women was considered bad and attributed to prostitutes and men's sexuality was considered a necessary evil that wives had to endure. Perhaps this comes from the obsession of the self in american culture and the barrage of images of sex used in advertising. I have experienced these selfish lovers and they are shallow and unable to love. thanks for the article!!
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lovematch2008 3 years ago
Very good hub, nowadays women are so open about what they want and what they need. Warm applause for you.